Did your husband say he wants a divorce or separation? Maybe he hasn’t said anything yet, but you suspect that he wants out of the marriage. Or maybe you have sensed that something is wrong but you can’t put your finger on what it is. But whatever is going on, you are spending all of your waking hours worrying about what you can do to get your husband interested in your marriage again. You want to get your husband back and save your marriage. What should you do?
First, if you really want to get your husband back, you need to be honest about the situation. Make a list of things that you think might be causing his unhappiness. Now is not the time to be gentle with yourself. Really face the truth of what is wrong with your marriage. Don’t use this step to take all of the blame, however. Make sure that you list things that he would need to change as well in order for the relationship to be healthy again.
Second, decide what you are willing to change about yourself. Think about what sacrifices and compromises you want to make in order to save your marriage. Maybe you are busy doing extracurricular activities on weeknights and you’d like to have more family dinners instead. Or maybe you and your husband need to have date nights to get the sparks going again. Whatever you can think of that would make your marriage happier will help you get your husband back. You don’t necessarily have to make huge, life-altering decisions right now. Even small things can make a large difference towards saving your marriage and getting your husband back. Plus, this is a proactive approach that will help you feel like you are truly working on your marriage instead of sitting back and waiting for your husband to say it’s over.