Some men can prove quite a challenge when you attempt to make them happy and try to become the person they have always wanted, not to mention vice versa!
But how do you know if you are coming off as too needy, desperate, over the top, or even abrasive?
Without even realizing it the woman could be giving off an unattractive vibe that pushes her man farther and farther away. With unladylike behavior through words and actions as well as blatant disregard to what he shares and opens up with to you, can all be a cue for him to steer clear.
Mistake #1: Being Fake
By acting or pretending to be someone you are not just to catch his attention (hopefully) is never a good idea. Even if you do manage to do so he will eventually catch on to your little games and learn to resent you.
Be whom you were meant to be which is none other than yourself!
After all, if he can’t learn to love you for who you are both inside and out, then he is not worth your time anyways.
However, engaging in some harmless role-play behind closed doors is and always will be the only exception! *wink.
Mistake #2: Bearing The Relationship Burden Yourself
This will only stress you out until you inevitably grow angry and perhaps do something you wouldn’t normally approve of.
Guys love an independent and classy woman but relationships can bear a significant burden, especially in its early stages when neither party is sure as to where it is headed quite yet.
Don’t let it get the best of you.
It will only wear you out to the point where you become argumentative or are no longer interested in taking things further. If he is worth even a shred of your time then he ought to be willing to meet you halfway, relationships are a two-way street, after all.
Plus, don’t get all tough on your man either.
Being ‘bad’ these days is certainly rising in popularity but there is a fine line between being bad and being, for lack of a better term, a ‘damn fool’.
So to speak, don’t go around throwing gang signs in his face or tattoo his name across your forehead unless he knows your either playing around, or is comfortable with that behavior.
Otherwise, your likely to send him running the opposite way!
Be sure that open-communication remains a daily practice and you both express the way you feel about current developments. This will help ease the tension from such emotions as doubt, fear, regret, et cetera.
Mistake # 3: Bad Mouthing Your Peers
This bad habit is one that a lot of women may have a hard time kicking. Gossiping should certainly be in the dictionary under ‘female’ as a lot of women partake in conversing over someone or something they dislike or have some kind of negative opinion on.
Guys don’t read into your gossip the way other women do, when guys overhear you bashing your coworker or complaining about something else, all they tend to hear is pure negativity.
“Blah, blah, blah”, and “yada, yada, yada” is the male version of gossip.
Mistake #4: Not Passing The Microphone
Sure he wants to hear and know all that he can about you but why divulge everything in one go? For one thing it leaves almost nothing to the imagination afterwards and for another, wouldn’t you like to know a little about him as well?
A guy who goes on a date with Chatty Kathy will be left feeling somewhat unsatisfied since he knows all this awesome new insight into her life, but left trying to figure when to squeeze in a single word for himself.
Mistake #5: Focusing Your Energies In Vain
If asked whether you are attracted to your man the answer should be either yes or no. Same goes for whether you love him, want him, need him, and so forth.
Although there sometimes is, there shouldn’t be any middle ground when it comes to making these decisions, for you either know in your heart that the answer is yes absolutely or no, that your just not feeling it as much as you thought you were.
If you focus your energies commenting on his flaws, where he falls short, or what you would rather look for in a man that he doesn’t possess; he will surely adapt to resent you.
A little positive reinforcement goes a long way and he will only love you that much more by also being sweeter in return. Love him for who he is and not what you would rather prefer he become, or who he ‘almost’ is.
If you cannot learn to do so then you might want to think about calling it a wrap; for your efforts are like trying to crawl up a hill during a landslide in a pair of stilettos; don’t try it!
A man will change if and when he wants too and for the right reasons, his reasons, not yours.
Mistake #6: Assuming You Know The Mind of a Man
Must we even touch on this matter? Of course we must because I’m sure we have all heard a handful of women, from time to time, calling their men out on something when they themselves are wrong about it.
This works both ways of course, no one is perfect no matter how sculpted their abs, and we all know that men can do the same fairly often as well.
Nonetheless, don’t assume that you understand what he is thinking, feeling, or planning just because he is cordial and kind. This can not only make you do or say something you might regret but it could also potentially save you from danger.
For example, don’t assume that every man you meet is someone you would instantly invite into your home, or don’t think that men are only intrigued by a woman in a visual way.
If you take the time to really gain the sense of a persons intentions as well as offer yourself to him in a gradual manner; it will strengthen your trust in each other as well as escalate the connection the two of you share.
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